Nojawan nasal waldain ki nafermaan qu?
Nojawan nasal waldain ki nafermaan qu?, hamaray mazhab islam mein, jo ke deen fitrat hai, walidain ki izzat aur Takreem ko aik imtiazi hesiyat haasil hai. balkay yun kehna munasib hoga ke walidain ki khidmat aur un ke sath husn sulooq ko baqaida sawab ka darja diya gaya hai. deegar maashron ka hawala mein ne is liye nahi diya ke wahan bohat pehlay hi old haosz ban-na shuru ho chukay thay aur walidain ko apni zindagion se allag thalag karne ka amal jari tha. old haosz se mutaliq behas karna aaj ka mauzo nahi lekin aaj yeh zaroor janna hai ke aik islami muashray mein hotay hue bhi hum walidain ki nafarmani kyun kar rahay hain ?
haliya misaal ke Rawalpindi ke ilaqay dhoke Ali akbar ki rehaishi Gulnar bi bi par is ke betay Arsalan ne tashadud kya, jis ki video bhi vayrl hui jo khatoon ki beti ne banai thi. is video ki wajah se awam mein kaafi gham vghsh bhi paaya gaya. Arsalan ko police girftar karkay le gayi. khatoon ki baho Basmah ke bayanaat bhi chand ghantay twitter ki zeenat banay, aur bil akhir Gulnar bi bi ne mamta ke hathon majboor hokar –apne nakhlf betay Arsalan ko maaf kardiya .
walidain par aulaad ke tashadud ke kayi waqeat jo duniya bhar mein bhi report ho rahay hain, hamaray ikhlaqi inhitat ki taraf ishara karte hain. hamaray maa baap jinhein ghusse ki haalat mein bhi uf tak kehnay ki ijazat nahi, un ke sath ab naarwa sulooq honay laga hai .
quran pak ki aayat mein bhi hai ke –apne walidain ke sath behtareen bartao karo aur un ke is duniya se chalay jane ke baad bhi dua mango ke Allah taala un par is terhan reham farma jis terhan unhon ne mujhe bachpan mein reham aur shafqat se paala. isi terhan aik martaba 1 shakhs hamaray nabi hazrat Mohammad sale Allah alaihi o aala wasallam ke paas –apne betay ki shikayat le kar aaya ke woh –apne maal o asbaab mein se boorhay baap ki khidmat nahi karta to hamaray nabi ghazabnak hue aur unhon ne is ke betay ko bulaa kar kaha ke khabardaar jaan lo ke tum aur tumahra maal tumhare waalid ka hai .
isi terhan aik maa jo no mah –apne batan mein bachay ko paalti hai aulaad saari zindagi un ko hajj omre karwati rahay is aik raat ka badla nahi utaar sakti ke jab unhon ne sotay mein bistar geela kardiya tha aur maa ne is ko khushk bistar par luta kar khud takleef bardasht ki thi .
Nojawan nasal waldain ki nafermaan qu? ab agar is pehlu par ghhor karen ke log walidain ki izzat kyun nahi karte to is mein bohat se aisay awamil hain jinhein dekhna ya janna zaroori hai. yaad rahay ke mein sab nojawan nasal ki baat nahi kar rahi, kayi log ab bhi –apne walidain ka sahara hain aur apni zindagi ke baad bhi –apne warseen ko un ke khayaal ki takeed karte hain. lekin baat horahee hai chand ganday andon ki, jo ke is liye maa baap ki khidmat karte hain ke jald hi woh mar jayen ge aur un ki jaedad unhein mil jaye gi. yeh khudgarzi ki intahaa hai balkay kayi log to walidain ki wafaat ka bhi intzaar nahi karte, dhoka dahi se jaedad ke kaaghzon par jaali dastakhat, maal o asbaab ke liye walidain ka qatal bhi aaj mamooli baat ban chuki hai .
woh walidain jo aap ko peda karkay aap ki parwarish karte hain aur apni bisaat ke mutabiq aap ko rozi roti khelati hain. aulaad maa baap ke liye hi taizana ban jati hai. rishton ki mazbooti ke liye sachaai aur khuloos shart hai lekin yeh dono Khasais ab is muashray mein khhaal khhaal hi nazar atay hain .
lekin agar mein yeh kahoon ke aulaad ko khudgharz bananay mein kisi had tak walidain ka bhi haath hota hai, to yeh ghalat nahi hai. bachon ki ghaltion par unhein daant dapat karna to aaj kal ke walidain apni shaan ke khilaaf samajte hain. walidain aur bachon mein koi had Fasil nahi rahi. woh genration gape ka zikar karte hue bachon ko be thaasha laad pyar karte hain ke bachay un ko apna hum Umar tasawwur kar lete hain aur sath hi badtameezi ki har had paar kar lete hain. aisay bachon mein walidain samait tamam barray afraad ka khauf khatam hojata hai. walidain ki aankh ka dar kaafi hona chahiye, lekin aaj kal ke muashray mein walidain aap ko bachon se koi bazprs karte dikhayi nahi den ge. walidain intehai had par chalay jatay hain. bohat ziyada laad pyar ya bohat ziyada maar pait aur daant dapat, jabkay yeh dono cheeze hi ghalat hain .
bachon ki tarbiyat shuru se hi achi nahi ki jati. maaen beton ko bohat laad pyar deti hain jabkay burhapay mein sahara betiyan hi banti hain. doosri taraf shadi ke baad yeh bitanay ki zaroorat hi kyun kar paish aati hai ke tum meri maa ka adab karo. larke chamak damak aur khoubsurti se mutasir hokar shaista larkiyon ka intikhab nahi karte aur phir jo baho aati hai woh kabhi saas ka adab nahi karti aur jab koi aurat yeh dekhatii hai ke mera shohar bhi apni maa behnoon ki izzat nahi kar raha to woh bhi is ki maa ko maa ka darja nahi deti .
hamaray muashray mein yeh to kaha jata hai ke aurat aik nasal ki parwarish karti hai, yeh so feesad durust hai lekin jab kisi larke ki shadi hojaye to is par dohri zimmay daari hai ke woh rishton mein tawazun peda kere. nah to maa ki baat ko sun kar biwi ke khilaaf ho aur nah hi biwi ko ziyada ahmiyat day kar maa ko banawati andaaz mein khush kere. kyunkay jo bhi traazo ke dono palron ko barabar nahi rakhta dar haqeeqat wohi nuqsaan uthata hai .
