Mushterka khandani nazam maazi hal aur mustaqbil
Mushterka khandani nazam maazi hal aur mustaqbil, aap apni khandani zindagi ko dekhen to mushahida karen ge ke maazi mein ghar ke buzurag aur barray tarbiyat ke liye bachon ko daant dapat ke sath baaz auqaat aik do thapar bhi lagadiya karte thay, lekin majaal hai ke bacha kabhi –apne walidain aur buzurgon ki tazeem mein kami anay deta, balkay woh mohabbat batadreej barhti hi chali jati thi. ghar mein aik hi waqt handi banti thi aur baqi sara din bachay hue saalan aur ghar mein banaye gaye achaar se hi khana khatay thay, lekin kabhi bhi kisi ke maathey par bil nahi parre aur kabhi kisi ne khanay ke muamlay mein mutalba nahi kya ke mein ne yeh khana aur yeh nahi khana hai. yahi wajah thi ke maazi mein ghar ka har fard sabzion aur daalon ko shoq se khata tha. minral water aur flutter shuda pani ka tasawwur bhi nahi tha, log gharon mein mojood null se pani peetay thay aur is ke bawajood bimarion se mehfooz thay .
aap mulahiza kiijiye jaisay jaisay muashra maadi taraqqi karta gaya to khandani zindagi ki shakal hi tabdeel hogayi. sabzion aur daalon ki jagah bargar, shwarma aur fast food ne le li. rishte daaron se barah e raast milnay ke bajaye social media ka sahara liya jane laga. kitabon ki jagah Facebook ne le li. nojawanon ne maidan mein khailnay ke bajaye videogames aur tib mein dilchaspi lena shuru kar di. log kachay makanon se pakay makanon mein rehne lagey. cycle ki jagah motorcycle aur gaari ne le li. jab yeh tamam tabdeelian ayen to phir masharti rawaiyon mein bhi tabdeeli aayi aur ab aisa lagta hai ke agay bherne ki daud mein hamaray rawaiyon mein lalach ka Ansar ziyada hai. is lalach mein –apne sath kaam karne walon ka istehsal, kmzoron aur mazdooron ka istehsal mamool samjha jane laga. aisa lagta hai ke taraqqi goya doosron ka istehsal karkay hi hoti hai .
Mushterka khandani nazam maazi hal aur mustaqbil, hamaray mulk mein mushtarqa khandan ke nizaam ko tarjeeh di jati thi. tamam betay ( shadi shuda hon ya ghair shadi shuda ) aik hi ghar mein maa baap ke sath rehna pasand karte thay. lekin taraqqi ke naam par khandan mein jo tabdeeli dekhte hain is mein hamein yeh jrht nazar nahi aati. aap dekhieye ke maazi mein gharon mein larai jhagray ki soorat mein ghar ke barray un ke darmiyan sulah kerwatay thay aur roth kar maikay jane wali baho ko roknay ke liye har mumkin koshish ki jati thi. Talaq ki sharah numaya tor par kam thi. log parosion ke sath behtar taluqaat rakhtay thay aur aik dosray ke dukh dard mein shareek hotay thay. jis ki wajah se hamara muashra misali aur mazboot tha. muashray mein juraim ki sharah mein bhi numaya kami thi lekin ab dekhieye ke muashray mein maadi taraqqi ke baad khandano mein woh tamam afraad jo aik sath rehna pasand karte thay, aahista aahista alehda hotay chalay gaye. muashray mein aik naya trained shuru sun-hwa, log mehloon se nikal kar sosaytyon mein rehne chalay gaye aur allag allag gharon mein rehna shuru kardiya .
mushtarqa family nizaam mein maa baap ke sath har din milna hota tha jo alehda rehne se dinon, hafton aur phir mahino par chala gaya aur wajah batayi gayi ke masrofiyat bohat hain. aap mushahida kar saktay hain ke mushtarqa family nizaam mein bohat ziyada masroof honay ke bawajood bhi walidain ke liye waqt nikala jata tha, jo alehda honay par pehlay kam sun-hwa aur phir bilkul moqoof hogaya. aap alehda rehne walay khandano ka mushahida kijiyej, un ke darmiyan jahan hum ahangi bhi bohat hoti hai lekin mamooli baat par ikhtilaaf bhi shadeed noiyat ke hotay hain, jin ka injaam alehadgi ya Talaq par mntj hota hai .
Mushterka khandani nazam maazi hal aur mustaqbil, ab mushtarqa aur alehda khandani nizaam mein bachon ka tarbiyat ka jaiza lijiye to is mein bhi aap ko maazi aur haal mein wazeh farq nazar aaye ga. maazi mein bachon ko dadhiyal aur nanhiyal ke tamam rishton se roshnaas karaya jata tha aur bachay un ka ehtram karte thay. alehda khandan mein rehne se bachay akailey rehne ke aadi ho jatay hain. inhen –apne aksar rishte daaron ke baray mein ilm hi nahi hota aur is liye un ka –apne hi rishte daaron se woh talluq nahi ban paata jo aik mazboot khandan ke liye zaroori hai .
aap maazi ke schoolon ki taraf nazar doraiya to idhar bhi aap ko taleemi nizaam aur usaatzaa karaam mushtarqa khandani nizaam ka parchaar karte hi nazar atay hain aur is waqt ke nisaab mein aap ko mutadid abwab mein mushtarqa khandani nizaam ko himayat hi miley gi. bachon ko is ke baray mein sikhaya jata tha aur bachon ko walidain ka ehtram, buzurgon ke ehtram ke baray mein takeed ki jati thi. yahan aik aur baat bhi qabil zikar hai ke is waqt’ ‘ maar nahi pyar’ ‘ jaisi pabandiyan aed nahi ki gayi theen lekin is ke bawajood sarkari schoolon se wasee al qalb aur aala Izhan ke log ubhray jinhon ne mulki taraqqi mein qabil e qader khidmaat sir injaam den .
Mushterka khandani nazam maazi hal aur mustaqbil, ab agar mojooda daur ki sorat e haal ko dekha jaye to lagta hai muashray mein khandano ki tarjeehat hi badal gayi hain. maadi taraqqi ne logon ko asaishen to fraham ki hain lekin jo khandan ki eqdaar badal chuki hain. bachay –apne mobile aur tib ko hi apna rishte daar samajte hain, un ke paas –apne khandan ke afraad ke liye waqt hi nahi hota. social media par hi woh –apne dost aur rishte banatay aur sage rishton se daur hotay jarahay hain. social media ke doston ke sath hi woh apni saalgirah manate hain. social media par hi baghair tehqeeq ke mukhtalif mulki idaron, mashhoor shaksiaat hatta ke pak fouj ke baray mein bhi tabsaray karte rehtay hain. almiya yeh hai ke social media ke’ ‘ viewers’ ‘ un tamam posts ko layik karte hain aur baghair kisi tehqeeq ke is post ko share kardete hain. yahi wajah hai ke hamaray malik mein har waqt afwahon aur sansani se bharpoor khabron ka bazaar garam rehta hai .
khandani zindagi ko tabah karne mein social media ka bhi ahem kirdaar hai. nojawanon ka khelon ke mahdanon mein aik dosray ke sath aik talluq bantaa tha lekin taraqqi ke is daur mein nojawanon ke social media se jurne se khail ke maidan taqreeban khaali ho chuke hain. nojawan aik dosray ke sath –apne masail share nahi karte. is liye nojawanon ki barri tadaad depration ka shikaar hai. chunkay woh short kat ke zariye taraqqi karna chahtay hain aur agay bherne ki is daud mein woh buray bhallay ki tameez bhool chuke hain .
mera kehnay ka hargiz yeh matlab nahi ke alehda rehne aur alehda khandan bananay mein koi harj hai, lekin agar aap alehda reh kar –apne khandan aur –apne walidain ke darmiyan balance rakh satke hain to phir aap zaroor alehda ho jaien. lekin agar aap alehda hokar –apne walidain aur behan bhaiyon se talluq khatam karlen ge to phir yeh khandani zindagi ko khatam kardainay ke mutradif hoga. aap aik aur baat mulahiza kijiyej ke jo log –apne walidain aur behan bhaiyon ke sath rehtay hain, un ke sath hadsaat bhi kam hotay hain. wajah yeh ke khandan mein aik dosray ki hifazat karne walay tamam afraad hotay hain aur jo jore akailey rehtay hain, beshtar waqeat o hadsaat unhi ke sath hotay hain .
khandan ke rishte kkhuda ki taraf se vdiat kiye gaye hain, lehaza un ka ehtram aur un ke sath rafaqat aur un ke sath talluq ko kkhuda bhi pasand karta hai. muashray ke har fard ko –apne khandan ke buzurgon aur walidain ka ehtram karna chahiye. hamein har satah par is behas ko aam karne ki zaroorat hai. alehda rehne ke jo disadvantages hain un ko dekhnay ki zaroorat hai. walidain ke ehtram ko mazhabi hawalay se bhi bitanay ki zaroorat hai. guzashta dinon dil dhula dainay wali khabar ne yaqeenan har aik aankh asshk baar ki ke do sage bhaiyon ne apni walida ko qatal kardiya. sirf yahi aik khabar nahi, balkay aap rozana ke akhbarat dekhen to hamein aksar o beshtar waqeat isi qisam ke mlitay hain. is liye hamein apni apni satah par nojawanon ko khandan ki ahmiyat ke baray mein bitanay ki zaroorat hai taakay hum mustaqbil mein aik aisay muashray ko tashkeel day saken jo sahih maeno mein mushtarqa khandano ka muashra ho aur jahan khandan ke har fard ko izzat o ehtram miley .
