Mayat ka khana aur kora wata ki rasam
Mayat ka khana aur kora wata ki rasam, is ki walida sarkari hospital ke bistar par aakhri sansen le rahi theen. doctoron ne batadiya tha ke zaeef alamri aur jigar ki bemari ki shiddat ke baais un ke zindah bachney ke imkanaat bohat kam hain. mairaaj deen hospital ki emergency ke bahar aik bench par betha kabhi maa ki sehat yabi ke liye dua mangta, to kabhi is ke dimagh mein anay walay halaat ka manzar ghoomnay lagta. agar walida ka intqaal hogaya to kya karoon ga? un ki tadfeen, taaziyat ke liye anay walay khandan aur rishte daaron ke liye khana, chaye, yeh intizamaa kaisay karoon ga? jaib mein to phooty kori nahi hai. sarkari hospital mein ilaaj to free mein ho raha tha aur marz ki duwaein bhi hukoomat muft fraham kar rahi thi. mairaaj deen ko apni maa ke ilaaj se barh kar yeh fikar saata rahi thi ke woh baad ke intizamaa kaisay kere ga ?
hamaray muashray mein ghareeb aur Mutwast tabqay ki yahi soch hoti hai. Punjab ke dehaat mein to mushtarqa qabrustan hotay hain, is liye wahan qabar ke liye koi muawza nahi dena parta aur baradri ke log khud hi qabar tayyar karne chalay jatay hain. qabrustan ke gorgan ke paas qabar khodnay ka samaan mojood hota hai. lekin shehron mein mojood qabrustanon mein qabar ke liye bhaari fees muqarrar hai. is ke ilawa tajheez o takfeen par bhi achay khasay akhrajaat aajate hain. is ke ilawa jo log taaziyat ke liye atay hain, un ko mausam ki munasbat se chaye ya thanda mashroob bhi dena hota hai, jabkay jo rishte daar daur daraaz se atay hain, un ke liye khanay ka ihtimaam bhi karna parta hai .
shehron mein rehne walon ko umooman yeh tamam akhrajaat apni jaib se hi ada karne parte hain. aik ghareeb aadmi ka bhi kam az kam 70 se 80 hazaar rupiya kharch hojata hai, taham Ameer log lakhoon bhi kharch kardete hain. is ke bar aks dehaat mein mukhtalif khandano aur baradrion mein kora watta ki rasam qaim hai. is rasam ke mutabiq baradri ke jin khandano ka aapas mein kora watta hota hai woh khandan mein kisi ki fotgi ki soorat mein mil kar tamam akhrajaat bardasht kar lete hain. jis mein tajheez o takfeen, mehmanon ke liye khanay ka ihtimaam aur jis khandan mein fotgi hoti hai un ke liye khanay ka ihtimaam karte hain .
khud mera talluq bhi Lahore ke aik dehi ilaqay se hai. hamaray khandan mein bhi yeh rasam mojood hai. hamari baradri ke chand qareebi khandan aapas mein kora watta karte hain. chand roz qabal jab yakke baad deegray hamaray khandan ke do buzurag is duniya se rukhsat huay to is rasam ki ifadiyat ka ehsas hwa. 2 decemeber ko meri sagy phophi faut hogai aur is se aglay din chhootey nana ( mere haqeeqi nana ke chhootey bhai ) bhi chal basey. gaon mein hamari baradri aur khandan bhi kaafi bara hai, jabkay dosray shehron mein rishte daari bhi hai. is liye taaziyat ke liye anay walay mehmanon ki tadaad bhi bohat ziyada thi, jin ke liye khanay ka ihtimaam karna tha .
Mayat ka khana aur kora wata ki rasam, hamaray gaon ke chand mooatbar afraad ne kuch arsa pehlay yeh faisla kya tha ke jis ghar mein fotgi hogi ya marhoom ke liye quran khawani ki jaye gi to gaon ke log is mein shareek to hon ge lekin wahan se khana nahi khayen ge aur Allah ka shkrhe is par amal bhi ho raha hai. is liye khana sirf bahar se anay walay mehmanon ya phir is ghar ke afraad ke liye tayyar karna parta hai jis ghar ka koi fard faut hojata hai .
gaon mein rehtay huay hamein qabar ki to koi fees ada nahi karna pari Albata qabar ke liye jo cement ki slib, kafan, phool waghera laane hotay hain, is ka kharcha hota hai. khandan mein honay wali un dono amwaat par majmoi tor par koi do laakh rupay ke qareeb kharch agaya. yeh do laakh ki raqam meri phophi ke beton ke liye bhi barri bhaari thi. mumkin hai woh kisi se qarz letay aur phir kayi mah tak qarz utaartay rehtay. lekin ab hamein is kora watta ki rasam ke tehat yeh kharch 5 khandano mein taqseem karna tha. is hisaab se taqreeban aik khandan ko chalees hazaar rupay dena parre. meri family ne bhi chalees hazaar dainay thay. hum chaar bhaiyon ne das, das hazaar shaamil karkay –apne hissay ke chalees hazaar day diye. tab mujhe is rasam ke faida mand honay ka ehsas sun-hwa, das hazaar dena ziyada mushkil nahi tha. taham aik sawal mere zehen mein zaroor tha ke mein kisi mufti aur aalam deen se is ki sharai hesiyat maloom karoon taakay dil ko tasalii hosakay. is hawalay se jab mukhtalif dar ul fatah se rabita kya to bohat si tafseelaat online hi muyassar hogai .
Mayat ka khana aur kora wata ki rasam, ulmaye karaam ke mutabiq kisi ki wafaat par teen din sog karne ka saboot to wazeh hai lekin teesra, daswaan, chaleeswa din sharean zaroori nahi. yeh earzi tor par aur intizami sahoolat ke paish e nazar muqarrar kiye jatay hain. aik musalman ke dosray musalman par bohat se haqooq hotay hain, jin mein bemaar ki ayadat karna, marjaye to is ke janazay mein shareek hona waghera shaamil hain. umooman marnay walay ke Aziz , rishte daar aur dost ahbaab mein se kuch to janazay mein shareek ho jatay hain, jabkay kuch bojoh shareek nahi ho saktay. ab do soorten banti hain, aik to woh chup karkay baithy rahen aur anay ki zahmat hi nah karen. dosra yeh ke woh maiyat ke Aziz o Iqareb ke paas izhaar taaziyat ke liye ayen. buzurgon ne chand din apni aur anay walon ki sahoolat ke liye makhsoos kardiye taakay dono ko sahoolat rahay. yahi din baad mein teesra ya chaleeswa ke naam se mashhoor hogaye. jo janazay se reh gaya woh qul khawani par aajay, jo is se reh gaya woh daswaan ya chaliswi mein shareek hojaye .
lehaza duroood o salam parhna, sadqa o khairaat karna, quran ki tilawat karna, Allah ka zikar karna, khana khilana, kapray pehnana, khuloos o dil se ho, rizaq halal se ho to neki hai aur karِ sawab hai. un tamam swabon ko jama karkay marnay walon ke naam bhejna aur un ke liye duaye mughfirat karna quran o hadees ke ain mutabiq hai .
jahan tak marnay walay ki taaziyat ke liye anay walon ke khanay ka ihtimaam karna hai to maiyat walay ghar mein dastarkhawan sajana aur dawat ka ihtimaam karna durust nahi hai. taham jo maheman daur daraaz ka safar tay karkay atay hain un ko khana nah khilana bhi munasib nahi lagta .
lehaza mehmanon ke liye khanay ka ihtimaam karne mein koi qabahat nahi hai. taham is baat ka khayaal rakhna chahiye ke is ka boojh marnay walay ke vrsa par nah parre, agar woh ghareeb hon. behtar yeh hai ke ahal maiyat ke khanay ka intizam hamein karna chahiye nah ke wahan se khud khana chahiye .
hazrat Abdul Allah ban Jaffer razi Allah taala anhuma se riwayat hai ke hazrat Jaffer Tayyar razi Allah taala anho ki shahadat ki khabar pohanchi to Sal Allah Alayhi Wa-alihi Wasallam ne sahaba karaam se farmaya : Jaffer ke ghar walon ke liye khana tayyar karo ke un par sadma aaya hai jis ne un ki tawajah is se htadi hai. ( Ahmed ban Hanbal , 1 : 205, raqam : 1751 ),
aaj kal baaz shehron mein commetian bani hui hain jo aisay mawaqon par ahal maiyat ke liye khana tayyar karkay hukum nabwi par amal karte hain. yuhin baaz hassas parosi musalman apni taraf se khanay ka bandobast kardete hain, balkay kayi kayi din tak ahal maiyat ke liye khana bheja jata hai. muqami azeezon ko to waisay hi –apne gharon par khana khana chahiye, haan daur daraaz se anay walay ya ghar walay is se faida uthayen ge, kam az kam ahal maiyat ko is taraf se to pareshani la-haq nahi honi chahi .
doosri ahem baat yeh hai ke agar yeh khana aisaal sawab ke liye hai to phir bhi dekhen is par kharch kis ka uth raha hai? kya yeh khairaat marnay walay ke tarka se hai? agar aisa hai to khoob samajh lijiye ke marnay walay ke kal tarka se pehlay maiyat ki tajheez o takfeen ki jaye. phir jo bachay is se agar maiyat ke zimmay qarz hai to woh utaara jaye. baqaya tarka mein se maiyat ki wasiyat poori ki jaye jo ke kal tarka ki aik tahai se zayed nah ho, is ke baad maiyat ke tarka mein tamam warison par muqarrar tanasub se taqseem kya jaye. maiyat ke tamam tarka mein tamam warison ka haq hota hai aur jab tak woh tamam vrsa ijazat nah den aap is jaedad mein kami Beshi nahi kar saktay. lehaza is ghair munqasim jaedad mein se warison ki ijazat ke baghair khairaat karna haraam hai, is mein koi sawab nahi .
Mayat ka khana aur kora wata ki rasam, agar ahal khanah kisi waris ya bachon ka haq nahi maartay aur apni jaib se karte hain to is ki do soorten hain. agar khushaal hain to aisay mawaqay par aisaal sawab ke liye khanay peenay aur quran khawani ka ihtimaam karna neki hai, ghareeb parwari hai, is ka yaqeenan maiyat ko sawab puhanche ga. agar ghareeb o msakin hain aur logon ki dekha dekhi ya logon ke taanon se bachney ya izzat bachanay ke liye qarz le kar yeh taqrebaat injaam dete hain to koi neki nahi. yeh hamaqat aur gunah hai .
