kya aap bhi bachon ki yak Tarfah ‘ kahani’ par yaqeen krliti hain. .. ?
kya aap bhi bachon ki yak Tarfah ‘ kahani’ par yaqeen krliti hain. .. ?, kya aap ne kabhi socha hai ke aksar aap ke bachay school se –apne hum jamaat ki shikayaat to le kar ghar pahunchte hain, lekin woh kabhi apni ghalti ka aitraaf nahi karte. .. woh aap ko yeh to batatay hain ke aaj falan ne usay tang kya, scale mara ya is ke sath koi badtameezi ki, lekin is ke sath walidain bhi yeh nahi puchhte ke is ne aakhir aap ko kyun mara. .. aap ki is ke sath aakhir baat hui kya thi. .. ?
darasal hum bator walidain yeh farz kar letay hain ke hamara bacha jhoot bol hi nahi sakta, nah hi ghalti kar sakta hai. .. hum is marhalay par yeh sochna gawara hi nahi karte ke yeh jo aaye roz sirf doosron hi ki shikayat le kar ghar aata hai, kya kisi aur ko bhi is se shikayat hai. ..? bohat mumkin hai ke dosray bachay kisi rad-e-amal mein usay tang karte hon, lekin woh ghar aakar sirf doosron ki baat batata hai aur apni shararaton ko danista posheeda rakhta hai. . .
doosri taraf usay bhi yeh yaqeen hota hai ke is ki ammi ya baba is ki yak Tarfah kahaniyan sun kar kabhi yeh khoj laganay ki koshish nahi karen ge ke kahin is ne bhi to kuch nahi kya tha. ..? darasal walidain –apne bachon ki yak Tarfah baatein sun kar foran yaqeen karne aur usay mukammal haqeeqat jaan kar rad-e-amal dainay ke is qader aadi ho chuke hotay hain ke is ke ilawa hamein kuch sujhta bhi nahi aur yun bachay ki jazbati nashonuma par is chhap ka assar gehra honay lagta hai ke’ ‘ woh hamesha durust hota hai. .. !’ ‘
is ta-assur ko pukhta karne ke liye jab walidain diary par notice likh kar bhaijtay hain ya phir aglay din khud school pahonch jatay hain aur poora maamla khilnay par jab yeh pata chalta hai ke ziyada qasoor to aap ke –apne bachay hi ka hai, to aap ko apni jald baazi ke sath sath sharmindagi ka ehsas bhi honay lagta hai, kam Umri se hi agar aisay ravayye ki parwarish ke liye ghar se sazgaar mahol milta rahay, to bachay ke andar manfi salahiyaton ko pukhtagi milna shuru ho jati hai. . .
agar paanch saal ki Umar mein bachay ko achay school bhejnay ke liye aap jatan kar satke hain, to itni hi fikar mandi bachay ki jazbati aur samaji taleem ke liye bhi honi chahiye taakay bachay ki shakhsiyat Adam tawazun ka shikaar nah ho. . .
lehaza walidain aur taleemi idaron ko mil kar aisi tadabeer ikhtiyar karni chahiye ke jin ki wajah se bachay ke andar peda honay walay manfi khayalat ka tadaruk mumkin ho. . .
ghar mein walidain ka kirdaar
bachay ko ghar mein ziyada se ziyada tawajah walidain hi day satke hain, kyun ke bacha tawajah haasil karne ke liye hi aisay harbe istemaal karta hai. .. ghusse ke waqt usay Daleel se qaail karna, is ke ishtial mein izafay ka baais banay ga, lehaza khamoshi se is ki baat suni jaye. .. is ke sath bachay ki shadeed jazbati haalat ko badalny mein chand tareefi kalmaat mufeed saabit hotay hain, lehaza usay foran –apne seenay se laga kar yeh ehsas delaina ke woh is waqt akela nahi hai, sab is ke sath hain !
bachay ke andar shadeed nafrat ka assar zael karne ke liye mohabbat ka jazba bedaar karen, lekin yeh jazba isi waqt bedaar hoga, jab bachay ko khud bhi mohabbat haasil ho, nashonuma ke mukhtalif adwaar mein yahi mohabbat is mein doosron se mohabbat karne ka jazba peda karti hai, lekin agar bachon ko ghar mein zaroori mohabbat o shafqat muyassar nah ho to woh –apne jazbaat ko jawan ho kar poooray muashray ke khilaaf nafrat ki shakal mein zahir karte hain. . .
٭bachon ki jazbati aur samaji nashonuma mein taleemi idaray ka kirdaar
school mein aakar bachay ko aik wasee daira muyassar aata hai, jo is ke jazbati aur masharti ehsasat ki nashonuma mein ahem kirdaar ada karta hai, is liye taleemi idaray ka mahol intehai khush gawaar hona chahiye. .. madrasay mein nasabi aur hum nasabi sar garmion ke ijra se jazbaat ka ikhraj ya is ka rukh badalny ki koshish ki jaye, jin bachon mein gussa shadeed noiyat ka ho un ke ghusse ke jazbaat ko muqablay ki shakal mein dhaal diya jaye, is maqsad ke liye bazm adab, rassa kashi, daud ke muqablon jaisi sargarmia manfi khayalat ka khtama karne mein ahem kirdaar ada kar sakti hain. . .
kya aap bhi bachon ki yak Tarfah ‘ kahani’ par yaqeen krliti hain. .. ? jazbati Adam tawazun ka shikaar bachon ki mamooli kaam yabi par usaatzaa dil khol kar hosla afzai karen, is ke ilawa un ke zimmay chhoo te motay kaam laganay chahiye, maslan kamray ya almaari ki chaabi day dena, duster, chaak waghera ka bandobast karna, yeh woh kaam hain ke jis se bacha khud ko ahem mehsoos karta hai. .. usay lagta hai ke is ki bhi koi hesiyat hai aur yun is ka aetmaad bahaal honay lagta hai, bachon ko –apne jazbaat ke izhaar ke pasandeeda tareeqon ki tarbiyat den yeh tarbiyat aisi honi chahiye ke barray ho kar bhi jazbaat un ke control mein rahen. . .
unhein school ki satah par aisa mahol fraham kya jaye, jis mein un ke ravayye, mhartin, –apne hum jamaat ka ehtram o mohabbat aur aala masharti taluqaat ustuwar hon, taakay woh nah sirf achay shehri ban saken, balkay doosron ka ehsas karne walay insaan bhi kehlayen. . .
