Gham ek khamosh ustaad
Gham ek khamosh ustaad, zindagi ki is dor mein sab se ziyada jo baat aik insaan ko mutasir karti hai, woh gham hai jis ka woh kisi soorat bhi mutlashi nahi rehta. kehte hain agar koi cheez insaan ko maar nahi sakti to woh usay mazboot karkay zaroor chodthee hai aur yahi haal is gham ka bhi hai. hum mein se kayi aisay log hain jinhon ne zindagi mein aisi kaifiyat ka saamna kar rakha ho ya –apne qareebi logon ko is mein mubtala paaya ho. kisi –apne ka bhichar jana, mohlik bemari se jung, Talaq ki soorat mein alehadgi, be rozgari ya deegar aisi kayi sorat e haal ka shikaar insaan takleef da tanao, talkhi, afsurdagi aur mustaqil be cheeni ka shikaar nazar aata hai .
Gham ek khamosh ustaad, qudrat ka aik qanoon hai ke woh kisi ko is ki bardasht se ziyada boojh nahi deta. kuch aisa hi maamla gham o takaleef jaisi kaifiyat ka bhi hai, jo ke aik khaas muddat ke liye zindagi ka hissa to banti hain lekin apna aik cycle mukammal karne ke baad kuch aisay misbet asraat bhi chore jati hain jis se insaan ki wabastagi pehlay nahi hui hoti. aam halaat mein insaan –apne andar ki taaqat ko pehchan hi nahi paata ke Allah ne is ke andar kitni sakt o bardasht karne ka madah rakh chorra hai .
jahan hamara jism khanay peenay aur sonay ka taqaza karta hai to ain isi terhan hamari rooh aur aqal bhi hum se brhhotri ka taqaza karti hai aur is ki nashonuma ke liye baaz auqaat qudrat ki janib se gham ko mehsoos karwaya jata hai. jab zindagi mein sab kuch bohat bharpoor andaaz se chal raha ho to aksar hum apni zindagi ke baray mein sawal karna chore dete hain. lekin is ke bar aks masaaib ya gham ki haalat mein hum apni zehni haalat par ghhor karte hain aur cheezon ko gehray mushahiday se dekhna shuru ho jatay hain. agarchay khushi ka tajurbah hamein la mehdood ki had se jorta hai to wahein gham hamein hamari had yaad dilanay mein madadgaar saabit hota hai .
Gham ek khamosh ustaad, haliya barson mein mahireen nafsiat is rujhan se aagah ho chukay hain jisay “post traumatic growth” kaha jata hai. is istilaah ki ibtida maahir nafsiat richard tedshi aur larns kalhoon ne ki thi. jinhon ne bohat se logon ka interview liya, jo sog, sangeen bemari ( jaisay cancer ), Talaq ya mulazmat se mahroom honay ke sath qareeb qareeb mout ke tajarbaat se guzray thay .
ibtidayi mrahle mein sab ne rooh ki tareek raat ka tajurbah kya, jis mein un ke liye zindagi ka har pehlu be maqsad hogaya tha. kisi takleef da waqeye par mustaqil tor par sochna ke kya sun-hwa hai aur is ke baray mein sochte hi rehna, khayalat aur ehsasat ko baar baar chalana fitri sa amal hai, jis se har koi guzra tha. is ke baad woh Rohani safar ki talaash se guzray jis mein unhon ne khud ko kureda aur –apne aap se –apne wujood se kayi terhan ke sawal pouchye aur justojoo ke is safar mein un ko kayi nai ikhlaqi aur Rohani qadren milein, jo ke pehlay un ki zindagi ka hissa hi nahi theen. kayi aik ko zindagi ka maienay aur maqsad mila. kayi aik ne –apne andar aajzi ko peda hotay dekha. kayi aik ke andar logon ke liye mazeed hamdardi aur daur andeshi ne janam liya. kayi aik ne –apne aas paas ke rishte naaton ko aik naye zwaye se dekhna shuru kya. un ke liye maaf karna aasaan hogaya aur sab se barh kar woh sab pehlay se ziyada mutmaen, pursukoon aur aik nai raah ke mutlashi nazar aaye, jis mein woh choti choti cheezon ke qadar daan banay .
Gham ek khamosh ustaad, zindagi mein aazmayshin aati aur jati rehti hain aur aksar khud ko dohrati bhi hain. yahan tak ke azeem Rohani pishwaon aur Anabia ne bhi takaleef uthayen. qudrat ki janib se baaz auqaat insaan ke kirdaar ki mazbooti ke liye zaroori hojata hai ke is ko azmaish aur takleef ke marhalay se guzaraa jaye, lekin is ka hargiz yeh matlab nahi hai ke hum takaleef ka khirmqdm karen ya jaan boojh kar un ki talaash karna shuru kar dein. agar khuda na khasta yeh hamari zindagion mein aajay to hamein is se aagah hona chahiye ke is ke manfi pehluo ke sath misbet kher bhi chhupi hai. jis mein rooh ko taqwiyat millti hai, zindagi ka nazriya badalta hai, naye mushahiday janam letay hain aur sab se barh kar jeeney ka aik naya dhang peda hota hai .
