Baho beti kab banay gi
Baho beti kab banay gi, bhabhee subah hi subah bhai ko meri shikaytein laga rahi theen aur keh rahi theen ke mein bohat kaam chor aur badzubaan hon, un ka ghar ke kamon mein koi haath nahi btati aur har waqt farigh rehti hon’ ‘. shazia ne maa ko nashta karne se bhi pehlay yeh batana zaroori samjha taakay khabar bar waqat pounchanay par fori tor par koi action liya jasakay .
doosri taraf ammi jaan bhi shayad aisay hi mood mein theen ke betay ko joru ka ghulam honay ke taanay diye jayen. lehaza daftar jane se pehlay Khurram ki achi khasi class le daali ke woh hamesha janibdari ka muzahira karte hue apni biwi ki hi tarfdaari karta hai aur usay choti behan ki takleef aur jazbaat ka koi ehsas hi nahi, jo is ghar mein chand dinon ki maheman hai aur jab se Khurram ki shadi hui hai usay maa behnoon se koi lagao nahi raha, waghera .
hamara muashra un hi riwayati kahaaniyon ki wajah se chal raha hai, balkay yun kehna chahiye ke un hi kahaaniyon ne hamaray muashray ka rang badal diya hai. ab rishton mein nah khuloos raha hai aur nah hi sachaai. ab puranay waqton ki terhan nah to aik dosray ka khayaal rakhnay ki aadat rahi hai aur nah hi dilon mein gunjaish. bas agar hai to sirf dikhawa aur banawat. agar rishte daari hai to paisay ki. aaj ke is madiyat parast muashray mein jaan nisari ke sirf daaway kiye jatay hain amlan sab kuch khokhala hai. dar haqeeqat har rishta hi matlabi aur khudgharz ban kar reh chuka hai .
ab saas nandain larkiyon ki shakal o soorat ke sath achi nokari aur phir is par ghar ke kamon mein bhi taaq honay ki guarantee maangti hain. bohat chaao se betay ki zindagi ko Khushgawar bananay ki koshish ki jati hai lekin aik larki jisay is ki saas nandain pasand karkay latayen hain chand hi dinon mein woh unhein khamion ka aik murakkab nazar anay lagti hai. halaank woh larki wohi hoti hai jisay kabhi saas sahibaa chnde aftaab aur chnde Mahtab kaha karti theen aur –apne Umar Raseedah betay ke liye pasand karkay layi theen .
Baho beti kab banay gi, waqt guzarnay ke sath har har kaam mein nuqs aur nuqta cheeni karna sasural walon ki aadat ban jati hai. nah sirf is larki ki zindagi ajeeran kar di jati hai balkay betay ke daftar se ghar wapas anay par baho ke baray mein kayi jhooti sachhi baatein batayi jati hain, jis se kudorat mein aur bhi izafah hota hai .
khuwa baho –apne susraly rishte daaron ko kitna hi apna samajh le, is par maikay par sab paisa kharch karne aur bachon ko dadi phophi ke khilaaf karne ke ilzamaat lagaye jatay hain. is terhan rishton ko karvi kaseeli baton se itna bad zaiqa kardiya jata hai ke phir un mein mohabbat aur bardasht ki gunjaish hi nahi rehti .
kayi ghranon mein, mein ne dekha ke jaisay hi shadi honay lagti hai larke ke ghar walay –apne ghar mein kaam karne wali nokaraniyon ko nokari se hi farigh kardete hain ke aap kal se mat aayiyae ga hum baho ki shakal mein aik nokraani larhe hain, is liye ab tumhari zaroorat nahi hai .
kyunkay har koi khud ko durust samjhta aur doosron ko ghalat grdanta hai lehaza koi ghalat ya khilaaf tawaqqa kaam hojaye to baho ke khilaaf mahaaz aarai ki jati hai aur jab woh ghar ka kaam aur office bhi back waqt khush usloobi se sambhale to saaray ka sara crdt khud le liya jata hai ke bhabhee to nokari karti hain, sara din kitcehn mein hum nandain hi kaam karti hain .
Baho beti kab banay gi, halaank koi maheman aajay, hamsaigi ke rishte nibhanay hon ya koi aur khangi maamla, bhabhee par sab se ziyada zimmay daari daal di jati hai aur woh aurat un zimmay darion se behtar tareeqay se ohda braa honay ki poori koshish karti hai. lekin wohi baat hai ke hum har kisi ko kabhi khush nahi kar saktay, misdaaq susraly rishte daaron ke maathey par bil hi parre rehtay hain aur koi nah koi kotahi hamesha gavayi jati hai .
rishte nibaahane ke liye kya hum –apne ghar ke nizaam mein ik naye shakhs ko qubool nahi kar saktay? kya hum yeh nahi soch satke ke yeh larki bhi hamari behan ya beti hai aur is ki hi wajah se hamaray bhai ka ghar abad hai aur woh khush hai. kya hum apna mind set tabdeel nahi kar saktay? hamein sirf ghar mein hi aik kamrah ya aik gosha bhabhee ke liye mukhtas karne ki zaroorat nahi hai balkay –apne bhai ke ghar ki ronaqe ke liye dil mein mohabbat, pyar, khuloos, rawadari, sabr aur bardasht ke aik ghar ki taamer ki bhi zaroorat hai .
